But like the clouds and the seasons, life is constantly changing- nothing stays the same for long. Energy and feelings that have been lingering can shift when you least expect them. Something positive and joyful can crumble in the blink of an eye. Something beautifully unexpected can come into your life and change it in an instant. The truth is, we have no idea what's in store for us. But you can bet that things will change. Learning to accept what life has put in our path will be our greatest challenge and our greatest gift.
When life gets tough, when we feel stuck, when there's an aching in our chest... just wait. Be patient and kind with yourself. Accept where you are at this moment, with these feelings, and go ahead and feel them. Giving in to our feelings and acknowledging them will bring on a shift sooner than ignoring them or distracting yourself. But sometimes it doesn't seem so easy.
So what does it mean to be stuck? To be stuck means you're not accepting reality. You're denying what life has given you. You're rejecting the truth. You're holding on to an idea of the way you think things should be. How is being stuck serving you? Perhaps it's easier to not take responsibility for your life and assume that something else is making you feel this way. You're right- pain can come from many places and sometimes it's not our fault. Pain is not a choice, but suffering is. Being stuck is a choice.
I love the picture above of the flower growing out of a rock. It reminds me that even in situations that lead to obvious conclusions, there's always an element of the unknown. Such is life when we feel stuck- the conclusions seem obvious- we're sad, lonely, frustrated, regretful. But when we accept what life has given us, we can find a way to grow and thrive. Like the flower, we may not be in a beautiful plot of rich soil as expected, but if we accept the cold hard rock which we've been placed on, our beauty will shine and life will flourish in a way we never could have expected.
So accept what you have and where you are. Make a choice today to stop being stuck, stop suffering. Have faith that all the good and all the bad are part of your journey, and stop longing for things to be different. The life which is in front of you is preparing you to shine if you work with it, not against it.
The sooner we accept what is, the sooner we can shine brighter than ever before.